Mind your language
Hi again, we are still on the topic, of Confidence. One of the things about confidence is the words that we use, the language that we use, how we go about saying things. Often people who don’t feel very confident will speak in very tentative terms. I can tend to fall into that sometimes because habitually, when I worked as a social worker, I would try to speak, in fact I was trained to speak, very equitably and democratically and be very careful about my language. And I know how powerful language is, but it did leave me sometimes feeling very tentative, like I was always trying to cover all the bases, and so I would tend to qualify what I was saying.
So, you’ll all have heard the children’s stories and fables, fairy tales, Aladdin and his magical lamp and things like, “Open Sesame,” “Abracadabra ,” magic words that make things happen. In the Bible it says, “In the beginning was the Word, and the word is powerful. Words carry their own vibration, we’re all vibrational beings, everything is energy, everything is vibration. You could go and check that all out on YouTube about the vibrational frequency of everything and it’s how we manifest or how we don’t manifest, depending on the frequency that we carry but also the frequency of our words. So, words are very powerful, and we can create our own reality, for better or for worse.
Often, we can use words that disempower us like, “Well, one day I want to do X.” “Someday I might have Y.” You know, there is no faith, hope or belief in any of those kinds of words. That’s different to saying, “Before the end of this year I will have X.” “By the end of this month I will be visiting the fjords in Norway;” that’s an assertion. So, it’s about speaking assertively with energy and confidence in your words, so I’m inviting you to start to pay attention to the words you use, how you speak them, which words you use, and start to change them, switching from generalities to speaking specifically.
When I was a younger woman and not feeling very confident at all I was very struck by one of the quotes from Goethe and it was this, I’m just going to read it off my screen; “Whatever you do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it, begin it now.” So being bold, which is kind of the opposite to being timid, being bold, (you don’t have to be loud or aggressive or overpowering). You can be bold in a gentle, soft and assertive way. And if you want to be confident, if you want to build confidence, you need to decide to speak assertively. Say what you mean, mean what you say, and be clear.