You are powerful
Did you know that you’re powerful? Now I know that many of you watching this video, your answer to that question is NOT, “oh yeah, I am really so powerful”. Because most of us, most women in particular have been used to dumbing yourselves down. Dumbing yourselves down to fit in with your parents. Dumbing yourself down to fit in with your partner, dumbing yourself down to fit in around the needs of your children. Dumbing yourself down to fit in in the workplace.
And actually, we get so used to it individually and collectively, if you look collectively at the discrimination and sexism in the world, most women are not conscious that they go around dumbing themselves down in some way or other to fit in.
I love the quote by Marianne Williamson where she says, “Our biggest fear is not that we’re inadequate. Our biggest fear is that we are powerful.”
And you know, when I pondered on that, I thought, you know, that is true. And for me when I really considered this, there’s one thing about feeling powerless (and we all have times and things that we feel a bit powerless about), but when you consider being powerful, most of us don’t think that we are powerful. I discovered that I am powerful.
I actually wasn’t in a position of power, but I learned to discover (tying in with the other videos on being bold and about not having to ask for permission) that I had a choice. I had a choice. Someone said to me, “You are master of your own fate and captain of your own ship.” And I didn’t know what they meant. I thought, she’s a bit crazy for saying that because I certainly didn’t feel like I was master of my fate at all at the time.
I was a single parent with three children and I really was virtually penniless. So I didn’t feel like I was master of my fate and I certainly didn’t feel like I was captain of my own ship. And I didn’t feel the least bit powerful.
However, when I started to exercise choice and I started to believe that I have a choice and I started to understand, even though at that moment I didn’t have any resources, I had access to quantum resources. And so that’s the topic of another video. But I decided to stop dumbing myself down. To stop playing small. To take my courage in both hands and decide this is not how I want to carry on living. What I want is to be able to stand on my own two feet, to provide for myself and for my children, to have a progressive career, to have a good income, not to be penny pinching, and eventually to have my own business and to work for myself.
And I decided I was going to turn everything around and do it. So I exercised the power of choice, and I decided not to focus on the glass being half empty. I decided to focus on the glass as half full because I had a brain, I had a good mind, I had personal resources. And like a lot of these things, confidence is an inside job. It is totally an inside job. It doesn’t depend on what’s out there. It doesn’t depend on the childhood that you had. I didn’t have a particularly secure early childhood, and I won’t go into that right now, but we all have to work with what we’ve got now and decide to focus on our potential.
And you, my dear friend watching this video, you may not feel powerful, but like an acorn is tiny, and out of an acorn, mighty oaks grow. In that acorn is the potential for a whole mighty of tree. And in you, in me, is the potential for an extremely successful, creative, powerful person.
You need to change your limiting beliefs and choose what to believe, choose beliefs that serve you, and you have to exercise choice and understand you create your reality and you decide what you want it to be.
So, I want you to take hold of that and decide you are actually a powerful being. You just haven’t discovered it yet. If you’ve got any comments to make on that or any questions to ask on that, put them below and I will respond to them. In fact, if you want to hear more in this series and subscribe, click like, and I will answer your questions. To make sure you get the next video, click subscribe now.